The Comfort of Not Having All the Answers: Learning to Accept Uncertainty

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Silence, silence, and more silence- it's the thing I enjoy most. Being eager was a choice, but silence was my necessity. I didn't lose answers; I just stopped needing them. Calmness encourages me to be patient and curiosity to ask questions; however, writing gave me the courage to be calm while being curious. Not knowing didn't make me feel incomplete. Not every flaw needs to be improved; some are complete by being incomplete. Questions and flaws do exist, but they don't disturb me now. Every experience is questionable, but not every question is answerable; being a question has been a great answer to my journey. I found peace in uncertainty instead of clarity. The writing journey has been quite uncertain from the start. What I would observe, I didn't know; what I would reflect, I didn't know; what I would improve, I didn't know. However, I knew what I didn't want- the eagerness to know everything instantly. It's the only clarity I have be...
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How I Stopped Trying to Prove Myself and Started Growing in Silence

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Make mistakes, improve them, and move forward. It sounds simple- but reality isn’t. Doing it consistently develops emotions asking for recognition. Controlling those emotions without affecting growth takes courage. Writing reflected a trust to develop courage, which faded out the feeling of being recognised.

A flaw being corrected doesn't define a big achievement; it's just a step on the ladder of being better. Days are passing; neither the ladder ends nor my habit of fixing errors. It's just affecting the way I write and think. Experiences get new perspectives every day with flaws, but growth doesn't seek validation.

The writing journey has been a reflective journey; it mirrors my views to myself. The day I started writing, thoughts weren't about validation or proving something. They revolved around self-evolution- whatever is going to happen would happen, but I would improve. Evolve to be a more confident, disciplined, consistent, courageous, and self-aware individual.

The urge to show and prove slowly faded with time. When writing reflected, the urge got silenced. When it silenced, I felt emptiness. When emptiness appeared, I redefined growth- and my standards shifted. Standards changed, raising the bar of efforts. When I questioned, silence came. The loop controlled the impulse to prove.

For a few days, the topics of blogs revolved around the knowledge I understood from my experience. With time, it will change. As the urge faded, my efforts became more genuine. My actions became more personal than performative. I realised everything doesn't need to be shown; it has to be experienced and felt.

Progress felt quieter when validation didn't exist. Understanding became simpler when the pressure of impulse faded. I experience, I reflect, I make mistakes, I improve, and I carry on with this loop continuously. I moved at my pace without any comparison.

The journey became mine; it's not something to prove. Consistency took over visibility for growth to be felt. The moment I stopped proving, I started growing peacefully.

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