What Writing Is Teaching Me About Self-Validation?

The seeking for others validation was not working but was lowering my confidence. The day I stopped asking for validation, confidence started to get reflected in my blogs. Asking for someone’s perspective proves that we don’t trust ourselves. For any work I do, whether it’s writing blogs or something else, I was seeking validation before. After writing for some days, I understood that others opinions show their mentality, not mine.

I had written in my last blog about the question I was asking myself: Am I going right? To answer this question, I thought within myself and self-validated that I am going on the right track. I answered myself that if I had not been going right, I would not have been enjoying expressing myself with full honesty.I started to take my own approval in any work I do now.

 My self approval has helped me reduce fear of judgement. I write what I feel, not what others feel. Anybody’s judgement now looks like criticism that is helping me to improve. I take it as the gaps where I am lacking behind while writing blogs.

I trust my words and my feelings more than others’. They will not face the consequences of my failure or enjoy my success, so why ask anybody? Maybe what I feel is different from what others feel. But the important part is I am writing, not them, so why should I ask anything from them?

Feedback is something different from validation for me, that helps to improve. While giving exams we answer questions by our own not by others help but our grades tells our feedback. I write blogs and ask whether you feel the same or not, or if I am making any mistakes while writing. I feel inner satisfaction while asking for feedback instead of validation. I do whatever I want; seeking validation makes me feel like a self-doubting person.

From writing, I learned never to self-doubt yourself. It has made me a self-validated person. It gives me self-confidence to express myself without thinking much, without any hesitation, with full honesty.

Self-validation gives confidence to give full efforts to achieve your goal.

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